I have a theory! I’m also a therapist and studied psychology and mental health counseling for seven years, so I spent some time learning and contemplating. I think there was a mass wave trauma and dissociation in men stemming from the Great Depression and WWII. Quality mental healthcare was unheard of, toxic masculinity was at a high, and stigma around mental health was strong. Many men were not there for their sons. Then add in Vietnam. Those men were not there for their sons. Suddenly we have a generation of boys with aloof and emotionally unavailable fathers and lots of hurt emotions. They then turn into Jordan Peterson loving men who want to be even better fathers or be the fathers they never had. I could elaborate but I won’t lol. Thank you for sharing and starting this conversation!😊
I completely agree with everything you said! I even see those exact war resulted father-son relationships in my own extended family and how much of it is centered around mental heath. The tough love, rub-dirt in-it fathering where everything is a “good ask mom” or “go talk to mom” response because they just aren’t there mentally to be present for their kid.
This is such an important part of the conversation on how fatherhood got to where it is today, so THANK YOU for adding this much needed insight!
I have a theory! I’m also a therapist and studied psychology and mental health counseling for seven years, so I spent some time learning and contemplating. I think there was a mass wave trauma and dissociation in men stemming from the Great Depression and WWII. Quality mental healthcare was unheard of, toxic masculinity was at a high, and stigma around mental health was strong. Many men were not there for their sons. Then add in Vietnam. Those men were not there for their sons. Suddenly we have a generation of boys with aloof and emotionally unavailable fathers and lots of hurt emotions. They then turn into Jordan Peterson loving men who want to be even better fathers or be the fathers they never had. I could elaborate but I won’t lol. Thank you for sharing and starting this conversation!😊
I completely agree with everything you said! I even see those exact war resulted father-son relationships in my own extended family and how much of it is centered around mental heath. The tough love, rub-dirt in-it fathering where everything is a “good ask mom” or “go talk to mom” response because they just aren’t there mentally to be present for their kid.
This is such an important part of the conversation on how fatherhood got to where it is today, so THANK YOU for adding this much needed insight!